Your EX will come back and WHY YOU SHOULD AVOID HIM

SOMETIMES ITS JUST A LATE NIGHT PHONE CALL AND THAT’S IT. All that month long waiting for the time that you can finally say to your friends that you have moved on with him was gone to waste AF– Ugh. And you’re dead. But that’s the reality most of us deal sometimes.

I recall when I split up with my first boyfriend, I was truly devastated. He wasn’t a great partner but I was young and naive at the time and thought he was the love of my life. I recall my friend vehemently saying that he’ll come back…they always come back! In the back of my mind I thought no he won’t. Not only is he stubborn but we didn’t break up on the best of terms. Surprise, just a month (thru a late night phone call LOL) later he came back.
I assure you for the most part your ex will come back on the scene. They may not openly say they want you back but I guarantee they’ll reappear. Their words and actions will indirectly say that they want to be around in some form. However the motives behind their sudden return aren’t always clean cut. Is he playing games with me? Does he want to give the relationship another go? I read a great piece on Madame Noire website about exes coming back and since its too timely (yes i have so many friends who need this right now) i decided to add my thoughts on it.
1. He misses you
Despite the cause of your split you’ll definitely be missed. We all know the saying you don’t know what you’ve got till it’s gone. Unfortunately some of us take our partner for granted and don’t appreciate them as much as we should while in a relationship. Once they’ve left you have time to reflect on the, should a, could a, would as. Sometimes it takes you to leave before your ex partner can recognize whether they can treat you right and enable you both to have the relationship you want and deserve.
2. He knows you’ll take him back.
Your ex knows you better than you think. If I had a pound for every time one of my girlfriends said that they were done with their ex and that they won’t be giving them the time of day again *yawn* I’m guilty of throwing around that statement too. He’s lost me for good….blah, blah. All it takes is one phone call, you hear their dulcet tones and you’re back to square one. All that strength you’d found to get yourself back on track goes out the window and your back to an emotional wreck. Not sure whether to consider giving him another chance. When we want things to work we end up believing that this time it will be different. A good friend of mine is convinced people don’t change; I’m still undecided. The fact is things seem nice and sweet for the first few months then old habits return and your back where you started.
3. He’s Bored.
This is why you must be careful not to jump straight back into the arms of your ex. The reason behind your separation will determine whether you want to give things another go. For this reason you should proceed with caution there’s no rush. Don’t let familiarity cause you to make any hasty decisions. Your ex may have a selection of people he’s entertaining but their not quite cutting it. You’d be surprised how that one phone call spirals into a rendezvous. Don’t mistake his boredom for wanting to get back into a serious relationship with you.
4. There’s No One Else Around.
If your ex hasn’t found a new beau don’t be surprised if your phone starts ringing. It may just be that you’re wanted for intimacy nothing more, nothing less. As I mentioned in point 2 when we’re used to peoples traits and once sex is added to the equation it’s easy to go back to what you know. No one wants to be alone at the best of times and you may be there to fill the gap until someone new comes along.
5. You’ve moved on.
Is it just me or do you find your exes always come back once you’ve moved on, what is that? Not necessarily within a new relationship but you’ve washed your hands of your ex and have no intentions of getting them dirty again. The love has well and truly gone. The thing is once you’ve moved on from the heartbreak and state of depression you return to a state of happiness. Your more confident and have learnt from the experience When your ex sees you content and positive it reminds them of the person you were when you first met. Before things got deep and heavy and before nagging Norah emerged. More than likely your ex will be drawn to your renewed confidence and will end up coming back within your radar. Maybe it’s the challenge of wanting what they can’t have?
I have taken some of my exes back thinking that sex is still good but boy i was wrong. Taking your ex back isn’t a good idea even if you want him back. Just enjoy the satisfaction that he or she wants you back after treating you like crap. Let their wanting you back be an ego booster to you but don’t go into a relationship. It is tempting to take them back because the day they dropped you obviously the feelings and the sex was good but it no longer the same. Coz you can sleep with him and realise the sex is no longer as good.

Then when you do the dumping then you are considered the villain forgetting how they pretended you don’t exist for the past months while ignoring your text, calls ,emails– all that crap. So if you get back with me don’t be surprised to find yourself on the chopping block. THERE.


I’m not saying it always end that way but for me getting back with them is just a way of finding out if they were really over you. So don’t be fooled.



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